Woman,How to Make the First Move

Sure, it's nerve-wracking. And you can argue that women aren't biologically programmed to make the first move (men are historically the hunters, right?). But then, women weren't ever supposed to hold high-powered jobs, serve in the military or even vote. So now that we've done away with those stereotypes, how about tackling that final frontier of asking your latest crush out for a coffee?

Say it electronically
Thanks to email, you can avoid the frightening face-to-face proposition as well as multiple phone hang-ups before mustering up your courage (and quite frankly, ubiquitous caller ID makes that behavior look immature). It also gives you a chance to show off your wittiest side since you have time to compose your thoughts.

Try the come-hither approach
Straightforward aggression can certainly get the job done, but couching your come-on with a bit of coyness can also do the trick, especially if you're on the shy side or want the guy to close the deal. "Sharon and I flirted for years, but we never got together because one or both of us were always dating someone else and I'm also not the Rico Suave type who thinks every woman is waiting for me to hit on them

Get physical
Nothing says, "I'm interested" like a light touch, be it on an arm or a leg, to let a man know pretty quickly what you're up to. And the best part of this technique? If he's not reciprocating, you can play innocent and pretend that you actually weren't coming onto him.

Suggest swapping numbers
Asking (gulp) "Can I have your number?" may feel daunting for even the most confident gal, so consider this compromise: Say, "I'd love to exchange numbers so we can meet up sometime. What do you think?" This approach feels more friendly and egalitarian than the one-sided phone number swap. And yet, most guys can take a hint at this point and will be elated to give you a call.

Try a little positive affirmation
So you're on a date and want to show just how much you like this guy ... only how? Sometimes, all it takes is a well-timed compliment to get the ball rolling, so make sure your date knows what a good time you're having with him.

Don't resort to liquid courage
As tempting as it is to use three tequila shots as the shot in the arm you need to go up to the hottie at the bar, being sober (or just slightly buzzed) is far more appealing. After all, how are you going to win him over with your wit and charm if you're busy trying not to tip over? J